First time visitors

What to Expect on Your First Visit to Club M4

Whether you’re completely new to the lifestyle or simply visiting a swingers club for the first time, this guide will walk you through exactly what to expect during your first visit to Club M4.

First Visit Quick Guide

If this is your first visit to Club M4, here’s what to expect:

 

You and your partner have talked about it for weeks (maybe even years!) and after incessantly scrolling the M4 website you have both decided that tonight is going to be the night. What to expect???

Walking through the front doors you will see several people standing behind a counter in the main lobby. The interior of the club, the dance floor, bars and playrooms, will not be visible. It will be like walking into a bank only with friendly tellers! One of our employees will greet you, ask you if you are new and then affirm that you know what kind of a club we are.

There is a membership form that you will both need to read and sign. You must agree to the rules of the club.

The most important rule of the club is consent. Every type of sexual activity from touching, kissing or playing must be preceded by affirmative consent. No or lack of an answer is not consent. The club also emphasizes respect for others and absolute discretion.

What happens at the club stays at the club.

These rules are designed to protect all of our members and are vigorously enforced.

Next you will be taken on a tour of the club. During the week it will be staff but on the weekends we use host couples whenever possible. This gives you a chance to interact with someone who is a real live member of the club. They will not only give you a tour but are available to answer any questions about both M4 and the lifestyle.

After the tour most folks head to the bar and dance floor. The bar is fully stocked and we also serve a wide variety of nonalcoholic beverages. On the weekends the dance floor is packed as many couples use it as a prelude to play. It’s also a great way to “bump” into someone.

At any time during the night you can go to the play areas. There are several attendants who will open a locker for you, give you towels and close the locker when you are undressed. Anyone who wants to access the playroom must be in a towel or lingerie.

Please note: Absolutely no cell phones in the play areas! Bringing a phone to the back area can get your membership revoked and have you banned from the club. Leave your phones in the locker!

There is about 5000 sq ft of play space and on the weekends by midnight it gets very busy. But you have no obligation to play. You can walk around in your towels, holding hands and watching the action. Voyeurism is absolutely a part of the lifestyle. Many people are turned on by others watching them have sex. Make sure though that you give them space. Six feet is appropriate. You can also play next to other people but if you want do more you need to ask before doing anything.

Going to the play area will be pretty eye opening for many. You will see people in all forms of sexual activity, combinations and positions. It can be a huge turn on. Or for some it will be too much. The lifestyle is not for everyone but if it is for you then it will open doors to your relationship, your understanding of monogamy and what it means to be really honest about your feelings and desires.

Side note: the first time my partner and I ever visited a club we were so nervous that we sat in our car for 30 minutes before getting up the courage to go inside. When we left that night we were both quiet getting into the car. It was summer and I put the top down on my vehicle. We got on the highway, wind blowing in our face and at almost the same instant shouted, “Holy Shit! Can you believe we did this???”

I hope that your first night is as great as ours was. Have fun and enjoy the club!
– Rich

Ready for Your First Visit?

Explore our upcoming events, learn about membership and pricing options, or visit our FAQs page if you still have questions. We’re always happy to help.

 

Frequently Asked Questions

Still have some questions? Here are answers to some of the most common concerns first-time visitors have.

Can we visit just to watch?
Yes. Many guests choose to socialize, observe, and explore the atmosphere without participating.

Do we have to participate?
No. Participation is always optional.

Will people pressure us?
No. Consent is the foundation of Club M4.

What should we wear?
Most guests arrive in upscale nightlife attire suitable for a nightclub environment. Towels or lingerie are required in the play areas.

Can we leave at any time?
Absolutely.

Is Club M4 only for experienced lifestyle couples?

No. Many of our members started exactly where you are today. Whether you’re curious, experienced, or simply exploring, you’ll be welcomed and encouraged to move at your own pace.